A Beautiful Burden

Ellie and I just finished reading this one, a treasure my mom shared with me when I was young.  Such powerful messages at any age. Hope ...

Mom at the Matterhorn. When she smiles, the patch covering the hole that cancer made where her right eye used to be, lifts and I c...

"To support a person with facial difference, look them in the eyes and smile at them." - Betsy Wilson Ellie came home last week...

My present sucks a little less this year ( see first post ).  I couldn't imagine a better gift this past year than getting to know you b...

I love blogs...just because I haven't been posting doesn't mean that you all haven't been reading.  I've been in a slump, du...

Break out the Kleenex- let's talk about The Fall of Freddy the Leaf by Leo Buscalgia Mom had this book in her "Death and Dying...

Family photo from the Philippines. Mom's own intro Salivary Gland Cancer section of her book: Sometimes I can actually see patterns...

Our favorite children's book to read together, and the layered strawberry meaning makes it twice as sweet. The Little Mouse, the Red R...

From the desk of Lois Trever-Basten: In late 1991 my husband died after a long illness.  He was strangely surprised that I "took such...

One thing about the Trever-Millers, we're kinda famous for our moves.  Not dance steps, our many moves around the country.  I like to t...

Playing dress up in Loie's dress, her groom to boot! About halfway through my Hospice counseling after mom died, my counselor Noah b...

I had a special relationship with Sushila Blackman, compiler and editor of Graceful Exits: How Great Beings Die .  We met when I was three, ...

Promotional shots given to mom as she researched this article. From mom's own pen: Dr. Sisson invited me to be the Executive Direct...

Photo by Arthur Nelson Trever, 1933 Chicago World's Fair. A Divorce Followed by Breast Cancer by Lois Trever Janet and her husband ...

Here's another remarkable "Wild Woman" in the media, though I may need a translator.  Sonia Velasquez,  originally from Colo...

Tree I am no longer afraid of mirrors where I see the sign of the Amazon, the one who shoots arrows. There was a fine line across my che...

Do not stand at my grave and weep I am not there I do not sleep Do not stand at my grave and mourn I am not there I have been born I am th...

An agoraphobic, alcoholic, ex-synchronized swimmer. One of the most creative characters to don a patch was Lily Charles, aunt of Charlott...