Showing posts with label DeGrazia. Show all posts
Showing posts with label DeGrazia. Show all posts

Saturday, September 11, 2010

Chatper 1: Good Morning Merry Sunshine

Good Morning Merry Sunshine

By Lois Trever



I am convinced that I would never have survived without the immeasurable amounts of love (with no strings attached, not expectations or hidden agendas), joy, and comfort that my mother has lavished on me across my entire life. She is a role model that continues to inspire everyone who has ever known her. (mom's preface to Loie's Chapter)



“Good morning, merry sunshine.
What makes you shine so soon?
You shine away the little stars
And shine away the moon.”
-A German Poem


Detail from Measure Once, Cut Twice blog featuring art by children at the DeGrazia Studio.

Dear Janet,
I know you remember hearing that greeting almost every morning of your childhood. When the grandchildren came along, Andrew and Sarah, they loved it too because you continued the tradition. In face this very morning Andrew, now twenty six years old, came bounding up the stairs of the fifty year old house where you grew up, and meeting me just getting up, sang out that very poem, complete to “and shine away the moon.” I was surprised and touched that he remembered it.


DeGrazia Madonna and Child.

However you, the sunshine of our lives, did not shine so soon on the world and us. As you know you were a wanted child. Oh, were you a wanted child. We had wished on first stars and birthday candles and prayed for a child to protect and love. We didn’t know much about teaching or discipline or any of that tough love business that might be needed years from now. We just wanted a darling baby to call our own so we wouldn’t have to listen silently to all those sometimes obnoxious friends who talked incessantly about shoe sizes and allergies and orange juice. That was really boring, but we wanted to have some of that anyway.



The day finally came, a bight end-of-August morning after the absolutely hottest summer on record. I don’t know about records really, but I knew it as the hottest summer ever. We were driving from our tiny apartment in the Irving Park area of Chicago to West Suburban Hospital where I had been born. Folks were standing at the corners waiting for the Irving Park street car to make them work. I was on a high. I wanted to lean out the car window and shout to all those unknowing people, “Look at me! I’m having a baby! We’re going to the hospital right now to have a baby!” I looked out at them eagerly, hoping they would guess. Art would be really embarrassed if I shouted to them because he was often more proper than I. I would soon have to be more proper for my role as a responsible mother.


Loie before Janet's arrival in the 1940s.

You arrived as promised and for more than four years we led an almost idyllic life. We were a little crowded in our one bedroom apartment and on a warm summer night the folks in the apartment across the way would sometimes awaken us swearing and fighting and smashing dishes so close by that in our sleep we often thought it was happening in our own place. We began thinking of a house of our own.






You were the focus of our lives. Oh, Art had his work that absorbed him weekdays and I did a few things other than be a mother, but not much. We lived on a busy street. You never in your four years played outside alone. The park was nearby, and our weekends were interesting, driving to see family and friends or to parks, zoos, or kiddie-land. During those four years you had shown your personality in many ways. You smiled and laughed a lot. Your dad loved to show you off by taking hundreds of pictures of you, almost every one smiling or laughing. The guys at work began to wonder out loud about how we got a kid that smiled all the time.




Note: Okay people, I actually have a full time job and can't just retype the entire book.  As a compromise I will take out selections but post the entire chapters as PDF if you're into reading the entire original. 

Loie's Good Morning Merry Sunshine

Note 2: play along...how many generations were featured in this blog?  Count 'em, THREE BABY!  For my posts I use Veranda without bold.  For mom's original text I use Arial bold.  I tried using colors but it makes my eyes go ga-ga...

Tuesday, August 31, 2010

DeGrazia's A Beautiful Burden



Some of you may recall the origin of the book's title.  When we lived in Arizona in the '80s, we lived very close to the DeGrazia Studio on Swan Road.  One of Ted DeGrazia's paintings is called "A Beautiful Burden."  Mom felt the picture to be symbolic of her own experience with cancer.  In her own words:

The Yul Brynner Head and Neck Cancer Foundation is focusing on the emotions and thoughts stimulated by this DeGrazia print.  So many head and neck cancer patients deal with facial difference in appearance, function, and adaptation.  They must work daily to transform the painful, unpleasant, or disturbing into the acceptable, and perhaps even the beautiful.  Their ingenuity ranges from designer hair styles to camouflage scarring, striking head turbans and baseball caps to bolster their self-esteem during chemotherapy and hair loss, color-coordinated eye and face patches, painful prosthetic appliances to replace ears, eyes, or nose.  Each of these people, like the lovely young girl, is doing their best for each remaining day of his or her life-- celebrating the beauty that is possible in life amidst pain and seemingly impossible challenges.

Every individual has a beautiful burden, of some sort, in their own life.

It's a beautiful image and doubly symbolic to me as mom and I must have stood in front of this image together at the studio twenty years ago, not knowing where we'd be today.

I also wanted to note that mom intended for any proceeds of the book to go to the Yul Brynner Research Foundation.  Now they have a new name, the Head and Neck Cancer Alliance, but operate in the same spirit as the organization my mom served as Executive Director up until her passing.  They do have a link to donate to the site via paypal if you'd like to contribute to the cause.

Check out the organization's History page under the About Us tab.  I couldn't link to it, but hope they don't mind a teaser ending with the reference to mom:

The Yul Brynner Head and Neck Cancer Foundation The Yul Brynner Head and Neck Cancer Foundation was created by the late actor after an abnormality was found on his vocal chord in the 1980s. With the combined vision of Yul Brynner and the knowledge and experience of Dr. George Sisson, the Yul Brynner Foundation was incorporated in Chicago in 1984 for the purpose of educating the public about the harmful effects of tobacco and its relationship to mouth and throat cancer...
...Janet Trever, who was a three-time cancer victim, began her efforts as Executive Director of the Foundation in the early 1990s and continued her mission until the day she died of this disease in 1999.

from http://www.headandneck.org/psaflash.htm and click on About Us then History tab.


More on Yul in posts to come...